Expand Your Thinking with NLP Coaching

NLP SolutionSometimes it is easy to get stuck on a problem and get tunnel vision about it. When something happens to us that triggers a reaction of fear, stress or anxiety, the mind shuts down; all we see is the problem, and our ability to think clearly and get in touch with possible solutions gets seriously affected.

Here is the story of a client who successfully used NLP Coaching and techniques to help him through a period of redundancy at work.

Week One:

  • The situation: being made redundant
  • The reaction: fear, panic, anxiety, depression
  • Outcome expectations: convinced he would not find another job, become unable to pay his bills, lose his house and end up on the street.

To add insult to injury, all of a sudden it was as if all of the news media out there were doing stories on the economic crisis and on people who had been made homeless through redundancy. Our client could not escape seeing it in the papers, on the radio, he even started to meet people who were in that situation.

Now, this illustrates clearly what actually happens when you focus on something with enough intensity: you get more of it.

We all have something called the Reticular Activating System, located in the brain stem, which is responsible amongst other things for bringing relevant bits of information to our attention. For example, have you ever decided to buy a new car, let’s say a brand new Clio, and all of a sudden you start to see more of them on the roads, on TV and in magazines?

Thank your RAS for that. It has received instructions to focus on the car you want, and is actively picking them out for you. Whatever you choose to focus on, good or bad, you will start to experience more frequently in your life. That is how it works, no exceptions. The question is: how can you make the system work for you?

Going back to our client, if you were in his shoes and about to be made redundant, would you find it a bit difficult to focus on anything else? Sometimes it can be hard to keep smiling, right!? I agree, and that is exactly what we need to do.

So, during their first session together, the NLP Coach used techniques to help loosen the client’s grip on his problem. In other words, she gently worked with him to get him to reframe his perception of the situation he was finding himself in; to get him to relax and start to expand his awareness a little. After a couple of hours, she sent him home with some tasking – tasking is important, because if you don’t take action, nothing is ever going to change.

In NLP Coaching we ask a lot of option-generating questions, we focus on the solution, and we take appropriate action.

Week Two:

  • The situation: being made redundant
  • The reaction: hope – a hint of excitement – looking at options!
  • Outcome expectations: client was powerfully in touch with his resources! Convinced he would be able to find another job within a week or so… maybe even a better job!

So what happened? Is it magic? Nope:  simply NLP Coaching at its best.

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“But always, to her, red and green cabbages were to be jade and burgundy, chrysoprase and prophyry. Life has no weapons against a woman like that.” ― Edna Ferber

Natalie Debrabandere
Natalie Debrabandere
Natalie is a Master Practitioner of NLP, Hypnotherapy, Time Line Therapy & NLP Master Coach. In 2015 Natalie will be joining the Inspire 360 NLP Trainers Training event in Barcelona enabling her to take that important next step in her career. Using the tools of NLP, Natalie believes that you can let go of all the limiting beliefs and decisions you have ever made about yourself. You can unlock your true potential, and start living the life you really want.
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  • Joanne Binks

    Another great article Natalie – thank you

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